The inspirational speeches of my Head of Sixth Form.

How do you focus on your work?
I personally, have no ability to focus on work without the impeding fear of everything going wrong. If I am too chilled I will literally do nothing but watch TV, listen to music, eat and sleep. However, if the head of the sixth form with give a motivational speech which is more like an hour-long threatening with a side of 'failing in life' then if buck up and start to revise and do better coursework and exams.
But, here is an honest description of my Head of Sixth form to make it more realistic for you to imagine;
He is welsh
He once shouted at a kid for not knocking on his classroom door before entering, However, due to a school breaking where the robbers smashes the doors there was no actual door on the frame.
He has made year 7's cry (I haven't seen the proof but it must to have happened)
He can shout so loud whilst looking disappointed that even if you are innoncent he can make you feel guilty and turn you pants in Zebra-themed.
Very similar, yet shorter, to the Head of Sixth form in 'The Inbetweeners' (it must be the example in the Head of Sixth Form handbook)

So when he first did the motivational speech this time last year I was revising over 4 hours a day on top of a 6 hours school day. This meant I eat, slept and breathed Biology, Psychology, Media and English Literature. Which left me with some left over which meant in September and October I still was motivated so I even taught myself half of the syllabus before the Teacher had fired up Powerpoint.
But, now I have run out. I am doing everything last minute, I find way to take the stressful edge off of it the morning of the exam be it sugar or other vices. I am still revising but not by much. Media I don't really revise until the actual mock exam because it comes natural to me, English Literature doesn't make sense to revise truly because the only way to revise is to practise doing the exams or trying to remember layouts which provide the best successful outcome possible. Then, ther is now my last lesson Psychology which I have about 100 prep cards for term which account to 1 out of the 2 text books, I have extreme masses and folders of revision for the subject so much so that I actually provide the teacher with resources and crib sheets which then I give to the class. I even make notes and attend every lesson without bunking however, I am only just achieving a D whereas there are people who achieve A's and don't take notes, don't revise and im pretty sure even cheated in their mocks unsuccessfully but still.

So this is to my Sixth form head, scare the shit out of me NOW. Give me a realisation that I will fail if I don't buck up my ideas.

Should I shout it from the roof tops or simply put a note in your locker?

I dress myself in feminine clothing so you can know from my perspective that I am a woman underneath
I wear make-up to highlight it even more, with bright colours and bold lines.
So why is it you never notice.
So why is it that you have never told me I'm pretty, or told me I'm beautiful, or even sexy or hot.
if not then tell me exactly what I need to do for you to notice that like you, I have feelings.
I want to have someone to want to hug me,
To want to kiss.
To want to have sex with me.
Not as just an object or something to do to pass the time in-between doing final exams and going off to University.
One said that it wouldn't be fair to start a relationship only to end it because he was going to university.
What about me!! Im going to university and wouldn't I want the choice as to whether to date even if it meant having to have the odd 3 hours journey to see them.
But, no I have have crazy crushes on a guys who don't usually correlate me as a woman who may have needs,
I have always been there for him when he has been on the edge or tears or the sharp cliff of anger.
But, what does that me "a good friend" or  "G".


What should I do?
- Hold a boombox outside of his house like "Say anything"
- Wait outside with a nice red car like "16 wishes"
- Give my earring to him like "The Breakfast club"
- Or be your secretary who keeps on talking about my tree-trunk thigh-calling-ex-boyfriend like "Love actually"



So I say to you, grow some cojones and if you have even an inckling of feelings towards me. Fucking tell me Im beautiful, sexy or hot. Ask me out to your favourite place, to watch you favourite film or to do your favourite activity.

Sex is power

Many people have always said that 'Money is power' however, it is my belief that Sex is power. Sex has been the oldest profession known to man. Money has been what gives power , yes, however, this is mainly a male ideology. Yet, to me it was sex that allows you to have power over people, it can give fire for blackmail and it can also allow you to gather secrets.
However, I haven't come up with this idea without a shred of anecdotal evidence. I grew up in a traditionalist house. The kids were fed before Dad got home from work and dinner was on the table ready always. Even when Mum wasn't there to get it ready for him to walk in one of the kids would do it. Even if Dad would get in at 10:30pm. My mum married her first long-term boyfriend. My grandfather has always had dinner served for him, if my nan were to drop off of the face of the earth and he would starve. So in my family everything is like time stopped in the 1950s and that includes the morals which should be adopted by every member of the family. And one of those is be virgin until your married. However, sex if you use it right can be just as powerful when toying with people with the thought of sex or the denying of sex as the actual act. It also allows women to have power which contradicts things which only 30 years ago believed in. Because before 30 years ago it was believed that sex was mainly for the benefit of men and women get barely any satisfaction from it. Men demanded sex and raped their wives. It wasn't until the 1990s in England where it became illegal for spousal rape.

So there it is, sex has both negative and positive powerful representations  when it comes to power.

Does the L word mean the end?

So it seems when ever you drop the L bomb it seems to force an unintended ultimatum on the relationship.

Love; Does it cause a reciprocation which may elevate a relationship?
                                                 or
Does it cause a blatant ignoring of your existence as that is not why they are in the relationship and can lead to its near immediate demise. Yet, there still might be an even doucheier dude or chic who say "but I can learn to love you" or "may with time". Both meaning the same yet they come from different people, ones who are trying to comfort your emotions to get something or just someone who has convinced themselves that they need to be in love with you, they have already scrapbooked it but the bubble has popped and you don't fit into that silhouette.


Yet for me an emotionally unavailable and near damaged person I don't believe that love exists in anything but Rom-coms and perhaps in a chemical formula but does that mean those who are in love have this chemical formula down to an art. Sometimes I sit in a room and I can happily convince myself that I could be attracted to all of the men however, none give me a second glance. Should I do it like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis who both were in films about relationships which were FWB (friends with benefits) who ended up loving each other, then Kutcher and Kunis decided to try a friend with benefits and ended up falling in love, so should I try this out?
I haven't even found a guy, who is single, who would want anything except a FWB relationship which is good but none want me. However, in my eyes relationships are over rated, my bio-parents got divorced when I was about 2 months old so I didn't really get the primary wave I just felt the aftershocks, then nearly all of my bio-dad's relationships have gone to tatters which has left me with a half-sister, a few step-mothers and an almost step-brother. So who was I supposed to model my monotrophic relationship on (the relationship which you use as a template for the rest of yours), obviously not my parents. Perhaps my brothers; he had many girlfriend until his early twenties when he settled down and got married and they are cute, or even my nan and Papa who have been married for 53 years which is slightly inspirational.


Yet, still none of my relationships last and then those who try and approach are creepy and even my friends tell me not to even reply to him.

So questions are:

To those who believe in love and has not told their other half how they feel does it mean the end?
Or for those who do not believe in Love what else is there apart from a FWB?

Anyone who has an answer I would love a response, pardon the pun.

Who's the Daddy?

The thing you have to know is my dad left when I was about 2 months old and being 6 years older than me my brother grew up with my dad. Then when my dad moved country my brother still went to see him several times.
Whereas, I have met him only about twice in my life. Which is why I have asked my brother if he can arrange a meeting between us. However, do I tell my mum and step-dad. My step-dad was the man who basically raised me so he may be offended and my mum hates his guts because he left her with a shitty house which was apparently ransacked of valuables and left with two kids as well , one being a 6 year old and one being a new born baby.
 


So what do I do?
Tell my parents who want understand why I want to meet my real dad and either be told not to go, for them to act like I'm a dick ?????

New idea to change my appearance

For those who know me, I like to think of ways to change my appearance every week and we'll this week's idea I am defiantly more sold on.


Bare in mind that I have medium brown hair, with a fringe. And according to my mum I am not allowed to dye my hair yet, dude I'm 17 only a couple months from being 18.

So I am wanting to bleach my fringe. Just to go blonde. But it will make a statement.
Much like the fact that I am getting new glasses tomorow and we'll they had to use frames of sunglasses because they were so out there. They are white. Unfortunately I was going to go for glow in the dark glasses but my cheekbones hold my glasses in place as they are high and we'll the gitd glasses would not fit.

Now I need to just approach my mum with the idea. My friends always support me and I'm pretty sure rhem imagine my mum to be some sort of dragon the way she turns down all of my proposition. But just let me do something.

Mother ;

I am not allowed to have more ear piercing than a lobe piercing because dad can't stand anything out there. You say that I can't dye my whole hair because you need money to keep it up as well as the chemicals on my head could cause bad things.




New update, she said no
Even newer update, I now have red hair which is cute to an extremely short bob, she still won't budge on the piercing though.

Being a TEENAGER!!!

So it's good that it has been a month since I have felt depressed however, there is one bad thing about it.



It has turned into rage or just anger. I got crappy as results I know but dad there is no need to remind me every time you have the chance.
Nan there was need to look disappointed.
Family can you stop tell each other behind my back how much I wont be going to college and how much of a let down I am in comparison to my cousin, who I did actually beat in results.
Dad stop going on about the fact that I haven't got a job, we live in a tiny village and there aren't enough businesses to suit needs of the jobless.
Dad stop telling me I am a liar when I am not and to think you think that is all who I am is not nice.
Dad stop comparing me to my biological father, he may have been a drunk, a cheat, an arse to mum and a liar but that is no grounds for you to compare him to me for many reasons :

A,. You've never met him

B, I've never truly met him

C, he isn't my dad

D, I did not grow up around him so I could not pick up behaviour from him

E, we all know you have a crappy job, with crappy lay, crappy hour with crappy responsibilities but there is no need to tell us about it every day or not tell us but act like a child

Tell you what I am a child who has anxiety which means I can cry when I get shouted at, exams kills me, I kill my exams (in the truly murdering sense, so much they are gonna test me for dyslexia), I have had a depressive state and I only told one person a friend and no one in my family picked up on it, my nan died but I could say good by because I had the friction chicken pox, I am constantly compared to my brother which I don't mind but people treat him like a failure as well, I never met my sister, I feel like my parents are more my grandparents at times, the fact that my grandparents won't be around forever makes me feel awful every time it's mentioned, teachers have always higher expectations which I don't meet, my best friend went through loss, a bad relationship while self harming and I felt helpless because it makes me cry every time I think that she could be hurt, no guys like me in a romantic way and my friend guys always just say it will take time and respect myself, well I am self conscious of my body /face/hair, I retaliate in ways to release anger by changing my appearance like colouring my hair with sharpies or shaving my hair or trying to tattoo myself.


Take any of the above and then say that I am a :

Lazy teenager
A liar
Good for nothing
Cheat
Drunk/budding alcoholic
Permanently happy

Yours the Teenage Teenager