So it seems when ever you drop the L bomb it seems to force an unintended ultimatum on the relationship.
Love; Does it cause a reciprocation which may elevate a relationship?
or
Does it cause a blatant ignoring of your existence as that is not why they are in the relationship and can lead to its near immediate demise. Yet, there still might be an even doucheier dude or chic who say "but I can learn to love you" or "may with time". Both meaning the same yet they come from different people, ones who are trying to comfort your emotions to get something or just someone who has convinced themselves that they need to be in love with you, they have already scrapbooked it but the bubble has popped and you don't fit into that silhouette.
Yet for me an emotionally unavailable and near damaged person I don't believe that love exists in anything but Rom-coms and perhaps in a chemical formula but does that mean those who are in love have this chemical formula down to an art. Sometimes I sit in a room and I can happily convince myself that I could be attracted to all of the men however, none give me a second glance. Should I do it like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis who both were in films about relationships which were FWB (friends with benefits) who ended up loving each other, then Kutcher and Kunis decided to try a friend with benefits and ended up falling in love, so should I try this out?
I haven't even found a guy, who is single, who would want anything except a FWB relationship which is good but none want me. However, in my eyes relationships are over rated, my bio-parents got divorced when I was about 2 months old so I didn't really get the primary wave I just felt the aftershocks, then nearly all of my bio-dad's relationships have gone to tatters which has left me with a half-sister, a few step-mothers and an almost step-brother. So who was I supposed to model my monotrophic relationship on (the relationship which you use as a template for the rest of yours), obviously not my parents. Perhaps my brothers; he had many girlfriend until his early twenties when he settled down and got married and they are cute, or even my nan and Papa who have been married for 53 years which is slightly inspirational.
Yet, still none of my relationships last and then those who try and approach are creepy and even my friends tell me not to even reply to him.
So questions are:
To those who believe in love and has not told their other half how they feel does it mean the end?
Or for those who do not believe in Love what else is there apart from a FWB?
Anyone who has an answer I would love a response, pardon the pun.
